We know people love success, once you get a taste of it you want more and more, showcase it on social media feel the praise. Most people want success and don't want failure. So how do we do this?
How does avoiding Failure affect us?
It is called self-handicapping in which we act in a way that allows us to shrink responsibility for possible failures that might damage our self-esteem. We may:
drop courses you may get a bad grade in
end a relationship at the first sign of conflict
quit things if there is no clear path for success
So why Do I love this concept of showcasing my failures?
This concept comes from Professor Johannes Haushofer posted his CV of Failures to his professional website: a lengthy list of grants, awards, and jobs he was denied. He does this to show other that things did not come easy for him.
Most often failures are kept hidden while achievements are posted all over social media. This create unrealistic images and even creates negative feelings in others like malicious envy. However when people see that the failures that preceded success it produces a feeling of productivity in others.
Maybe the secret to being more productive is knowing the failures that precede success? I'll let Ali Abdaal decide that.
Researchers have shown that by sharing your failures helps you to over come them and helps other people over come their short comings. Additionally admitting failure helps you to move past it, work harder and learn from them.
How we handle our failures is determined by our mindset
People who have a fixed mindset view failure as threatening and purposely avoid situation that might lead to failure.
Those with a growth mindset see failure as an opportunity for growth.
We can also see this in the movie 8 mile where eminem uses the technique called “stealing thunder” which involves revealing the negative facts/information about yourself or a situation before it is mentioned by your opponent or others
This is also a technique used in the court room it will it disarm your adversary but It simultaneously forces him into a defensive position
So why write your failures
Develop resilience because it shows you the struggles that lead to your success
Inspire others: when people experience failures they feel alone and detached, by sharing your failures you can help smooth the path for others
In summary those who fail more achieve more, so I have embraced failure, growing through each fail, and getting over my chronic perfectionism.